Dear Friend,

Even the best lovers are often guilty of mistakes in the bedroom... often WITHOUT ever knowing it.

It's just a fact of life.

But that doesn't mean that YOU have to! In this revealing report you'll discover the most common mistakes men make in bed... and... what to do INSTEAD to drive your woman WILD with pleasure. Avoid these 10 mistakes and you'll have better sex the very NEXT time you make love... guaranteed...

Mistake 1. Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn't


You may think that your lover is having multiple orgasms (or even AN orgasm) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises, get really wet, and even TELL YOU she is cumming. But is she really?

Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments on faking orgasms. I'm not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking orgasms EVERY TIME but... chances are there have been a few episodes of love making where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.

When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to cum. It doesn't mean you are awful in bed; just that being a mindblowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.

If you are giving your girl orgasms (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You're one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing a woman REALLY WELL. But if you're not, it is crucial that you learn how...

Mistake #2) Not Giving Her a Variety of Sexual Experiences


A lot of guys who are new to sex - or are used to having sex with the same woman - tend to forget that women want different KINDS of sexual EXPERIENCES.

You might think that changing positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting is a different type of sex. But it is not.

Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes they want to be taken, sometimes they want it hard, and sometimes they want to make love.

If you are NOT talking during sex and creating a strong emotional experience for her she CAN'T be totally fulfilled. Women want strong emotional experiences in bed.

Let's look at an example.

Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them. It is why when women cheat it is often with a "bad boy." However, you don't need to be bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in the bedroom. Just be a bad boy yourself by spanking her, talking dirty, and giving it to her good!

Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy paperback romance novels or current tv shows (Nip Tuck) they read with that long-haired douchebag on a horse (aka Fabio) on the cover.

Now, I'm not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse... but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.

Get it?

The skinny is this:

You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences... and you can give them all to her YOURSELF... but you have to mix it up!


Mistake #3) Forgetting To Be A MAN


Ask any 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL.

That said, she wants YOU to call the shots!

Yes you read that right. Your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and do her doggystyle without asking, and to do what YOU want!

Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate.

Sure, it's ok to ask her if she is enjoying something... but this is mostly reserved to specific technique when you are "going down". Save the talk about actual positions she liked for AFTER you are done.

Now don't get me wrong - you are not making her a slave here but rather leading with authority and masculine strength. Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think she is just uptight and her not being sexual if she doesn't want to do something... when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with your strength. You'll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Mistake #4) Thinking Sex Isn't That Important To Her


If you want to know how much women LOVE sex... just think about how loudly they scream in the bedroom when they are getting it good! You won't ever hear a guy screaming like that!

You might THINK that your sex drive is much higher than your girls because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But...

As hard as it is to swallow, recognize that if your girl doesn't want to have sex it is NOT because she doesn't want to. Unfortunately, it's probably because you just aren't getting her off.

Fortunately this is an easy fix, and in a moment we'll talk about how to do it...

Mistake #5) Being Silent/Emotionless in Bed



You may think that it is "cheesy" or "creepy" to talk romantically or dirty in bed. (you may think its weird to talk at all in bed) However, women HATE silent, mechanical sex. Why?

Let's hit this again my friend: Women THRIVE one emotion.

Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT at giving your girl STRONG EMOTIONS in bed.

And strong emotions = STRONG ORGASMS.

Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that get your girl off. The most POWERFUL FEMALE ORGASMS are triggered by her mind, not by her physical body. Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having sex and your girl will experience the strongest orgasms of her life.

Mistake #6) Trading Dinners/Flowers/etc To Get Sex From Her


Many men mistakenly think that women aren't interested in sex (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking) and that they have to "trade something" with their girl for sex. This is why you see so many guys trying to have sex with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts. While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SEX. When you have to trade something to get sex from your girl realize that this is PROOF that you are not good enough in bed. It is proof that she does not like sex with you since in order to DO IT you have to give her something in exchange.

When you are sexually satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for sex but your girl will often sponateously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating sex constantly. Just wait and see!

Mistake #7) Not Giving Her Enough "Foreplay"

If you still think of "foreplay" as the activity before sex you need a quick mindset adjustment to change how much time you spend on foreplay.

Here's a hint: Women consider foreplay as PART of the sex. NOT as a separate thing!

Here's why:

While a man is not capable of having a foreplay orgasm AND another orgasm right away when he penetrates his girl, WOMEN CAN!

Imagine if you could have orgasms during foreplay AND never lose your erection even the slightest and keep having orgasms as you penetrated your girl. You'd want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?

Well your girl CAN have foreplay orgasms AND penetration orgasms so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!

As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as penetration and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the penetration better when you are finally inside of her.

Mistake #8) Not Lasting Long Enough


This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it.

But while all guys know they need to last long... they don't necessarily know HOW LONG that is!

Well, after talking to hundreds of women about the subject, I've discovered that if you can last at least 10 minutes, most women will be plenty happy with that.

Sure, they might be even happier if you are up for a "round 2" after a break in the action... but if you can last for 10 minutes in the first round, then trust me, you are fine!


Mistake #9) Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior


It's no secret that women are a LOT moodier than us men.

But if you're in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time... this is often because she isn't getting what she needs in the bedroom.

FACT.

As we talked about before... while women aren't usually as sexually aggressive as men, they do love and NEED sex just as much!

But here's the thing... if you're not giving her orgasms... then sex does her no good!

Can you imagine jerking off but you could NEVER orgasm? You'd begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you'd get so frustrated by the inabiliity to "finish" that it was just easier to avoid it COMPLETELY!

Sooo...

If you can't give her orgasms why WOULD she want to have sex with you?

The answer:

She won't.

If your girl is not wanting to have sex with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her.

In the beggining, she may have tolerated sex because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and sex isn't satisfying for her it is more fulfilling to get herself off when you're not around. This leads to only having sex with you on special occasions... or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)

If you recognize any of these signs it's time to step up your sex game NOW before the sex drought gets even worse.

And when you do, you'll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in bed, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis... but SHE'LL start initiating sex with YOU!

A close friend of mine who is some what of a love-making expert himself told me something that I didnt' believe at the time... but I now KNOW to be 100% true:

IF YOU ARE GIVING HER THE BEST OF HER LIFE SHE WON'T CARE IF YOU ARE HOMELESS LIVING IN A CARDBOARD BOX... AS LONG AS YOU CAN HAVE SEX IN IT!

When I heard this I thought he was totally full of it... but as my own lovemaking skills improved and then I heard about the success other guys were having, I realized this is completely true. Women are biologically "made" to be child bearers and select the highest value man to have a child with. Don't you think that the ability to give amazing sex is one of the highest values a man can have? Especially since so few men actually are REALLY GOOD.

If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting sex, or acting "distant" in some way it is time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your sexual ability because the real culprit is inadequate sexual pleasure.

Mistake #10) Not Getting Help


Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey not a destination. Top athletes don't all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. Millionaire business men don't suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep shuttling cash into their pockets. And guess what... sex is no different.

To be an amazing lover you can't ever be blinded by sexual arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new tricks or tips to get you to the next level.

There are women who are unlucky in their love life. They are usually women at age 30 and over. One can divide them into several groups for convenience.
 


  


 




She really understands all his problems that his wife never understands. She even accepts the fact that he cannot divorce his wife. This understanding can last for years. She understands that she should not ask unnecessary questions or cause problems to a man. That is to be always ready, for example, to take a day off work if he suddenly finds some time off his wife, children and work. Usually, he has a low-paid job, that is why his ever-understanding woman has to give him good trousers for his birthday, a jacket for his child or face powder for his wife.She fully understands that he cannot go on holidays with her. She understands that he has to visit his terminally ill mother-in-law with his gravely ill wife and a child with psychological problems. She also has a proper understanding of his coming and going with a suitcase.

Some time later she decides to break up with him for good. But he turns up with a bouquet of mimosas and whispers a magic spell: “You understand everything, don’t you?” This phrase mesmerizes her and she keeps on understanding everything for many years of their hopeless relations. When her age enables her to understand him no longer, she is left alone without any understanding in her home.

Ai grijă să-i faci mereu plinul.

Dacă o iei în braţe, nu uita să repeţi constant gestul. Reacţionează la fel de minunat la sărutări şi mângâieri, ba chiar la cuvinte calde şi simple.

Când e tristă, încearcă să o faci să zâmbească. Dacă nu ştii cum, fă dragoste cu ea, va avea apoi cel mai frumos zâmbet.

Nu lovi niciodată o femeie, căci vei înceta să mai fii bărbat şi vei deveni o jigodie, chiar şi pentru copiii tăi. Ei nu vor uita niciodată că ai bătut-o pe mama lor...



Femeile, chiar şi cele mai sofisticate, au bucurii dintre cele mai simple - o floare, chiar şi una sălbatică, le dă atâţia fiori cât un bărbat nu poate înţelege... Să nu uiţi de ziua ei, de 1 Martie şi de 8 Martie, de ziua căsniciei, dar, neapărat, măcar o dată, într-o zi oarecare, din banalul motiv că ţi-e dragă... joia asta nu uita să-i duci o floare, poate chiar pe cea care-i place ei, nu pe cea care s-a găsit la colţ...



Iubeşte-o dimineaţa şi vei fi şi tu fericit. Abia pe la ora prânzului îţi vei da seama de ce-ţi merg toate atât de bine şi de ce abia aştepţi să ajungi din nou acasă, chiar şi după ani buni împreună.



Nu intra peste ea în baie şi nici n-o pândi când se aranjează! Cele mai multe femei preferă să le vezi doar în varianta finală. Respectă-le misterul şi... jumătatea de oră de stat în baie foloseşte-o pentru micile tale plăceri „vinovate", oricare ar fi ele.



Nu uita niciodată că femeia are nevoie să-i spui cât e de frumoasă, cât îţi e de dragă şi cât de tare-ţi lipseşte. Când vei uita aceste mici detalii, viaţa ta va fi tot mai seacă şi mai lipsită de noroc, căci nici unui bărbat nu-i merge bine fără un suflet-pereche lângă el.



Nu te îngrijora că piesele din care e făcută femeia se mai deteriorează şi îşi mai schimbă aspectul. Doar unele pot fi înlocuite, însă e preferabil să observi că şi piesele tale suportă exact aceleaşi transformări....



Respectă-i familia, prietenele bune şi pe colegii de serviciu. Armonia se instalează mai ales atunci când eşti primul care o practică... Cu cât eşti mai sociabil şi mai plăcut de lumea din jurul ei, cu atât vei fi mai iubit şi mai respectat...



N-o transforma în sclava ta, chiar dacă ea îţi face cu dragoste şi mâncare, şi masaj la picioarele obosite, şi... lista de cumpărături. Ajută măcar în micile treburi administrative şi îi vei putea cere orice în schimb...



N-o umili şi n-o jigni niciodată, mai ales în public sau de faţă cu copii - nu vei face decât să fii din ce în ce mai puţin barbat... din ce în ce mai puţin inteligent...



Scoate-o în oraş, la masă, măcar din când în când. Se va topi uitându-se în ochii tăi, chiar şi atunci când tu vei trage cu coada ochiului la alta...



Nu râde de pasiunile ei ciudate. Aşa par şi ale tale, doar că tu ai mereu norocul să fii înţeles şi apreciat pentru ele.

Nu-i spune că s-a îngrăşat, mai bine propune-i să alergaţi împreună.





Mihaela Radulescu






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Pecking, smooching, Frenching, and playing tonsil-hockey—there are as many names for kissing as there are ways to do it. Whether we use it as an informal greeting or an intensely romantic gesture, kissing is one of those ingrained human behaviors that seems to defy explanation. Its many purposes—a blow and peck for good luck on dice, lips to ground after a rocky boat ride, kisses in the air to an acquaintance, and the long slow smooches of Hollywood—have different meanings yet are similar in nature. So why is it that we love to pucker up?




Philematologists, the scientists who study kissing, aren’t exactly sure why humans started locking lips in the first place. The most likely theory is that it stems from primate mothers passing along chewed food to their toothless babies. The lip-to-lip contact may have been passed on through evolution, not only as a necessary means of survival, but also as a general way to promote social bonding and as an expression of love.


But something’s obviously happened to kissing since the time of the chewed-food pass. Now, it’s believed that kissing helps transfer critical information, rather than just meat bits. The kissing we associate with romantic courtship may help us to choose a good mate, send chemical signals, and foster long-term relationships. All of this is important in evolution’s ultimate goal—successful procreation.


Kissing allows us to get close enough to a mate to assess essential characteristics about them, none of which we’re consciously processing. Part of this information exchange is most likely facilitated by pheromones, chemical signals that are passed between animals to help send messages. We know that animals use pheromones to alert their peers of things like mating, food sources, and danger, and researchers hypothesize that pheromones can play a role in human behavior as well. Although the vomeronasal organs, which are responsible for pheromone detection and brain function in animals, are thought to be vestigial and inactive in humans, research indicates we do communicate with chemicals.










The first study to indicate that chemical signals play a role in attraction was conducted by Claud Wedekind over a decade ago. Women sniffed the worn t-shirts of men and indicated which shirts smelled best to them. By comparing the DNA of the women and the men, researchers found that women didn’t just chose their favorite scent randomly. They preferred the scent of man whose major histocompatibility complex (MHC)—a series of genes involved in our immune system—was different from their own. Having a different MHC means less immune overlap and a better chance of healthy, robust offspring. Kissing may be a subtle way for women to assess the immune compatibility of a mate, before she invests too much time and energy in him. Perhaps a bad first kiss means more than first date jitters—it could also mean a real lack of chemistry.




Behavioral research supports this biological reasoning. In 2007, researchers at University of Albany studied 1,041 college student and found significant differences in how males and females perceived kissing. Although common in courtship, females put more importance on kissing, and most would never have sex without kissing first. Men, on the other hand, would have sex without kissing beforehand; they would also have sex with someone who wasn’t a good kisser. Since females across species are often the choosier ones when it comes to mate selection, these differences in kissing behavior make sense.


Men are also more likely to initiate French kissing and researchers hypothesize that this is because saliva contains testosterone, which can increase libido. Researchers also think that men might be able to pick up on a woman’s level of estrogen, which is a predictor of fertility.


But kissing isn’t all mating practicality; it also feels good. That’s because kissing unleashes a host of feel-good chemicals, helping to reduce stress and increase social bonding. Researcher Wendy Hill and colleagues at Lafayette College looked at how oxytocin, which is involved in pair bonding and attachment, and cortisol, a stress hormone, changed after people kissed. Using a small sample of college couples that were in long-term relationships, they found cortisol levels decreased after kissing. The longer the couples had been in a relationship, the farther their levels dropped. Cortisol levels also decreased for the control group—couples that just held hands—indicating that social attachment in general can decrease stress levels, not just kissing.





Looking at oxytocin levels, the researchers found that they increased only in the males, whereas the researchers thought it would increase in both sexes. They hypothesized that it could be that women need more than a kiss to stimulate attachment and bonding, or that the sterile environment of the research lab wasn’t conducive to creating a feeling of attachment.


Kissing, therefore, plays a role not only in mate selection, but also in bonding. At an Association for the Advancement of Science meeting on the science of kissing, Helen Fischer, an evolutionary biologist, posits multiple reasons for lip locking. She believes that kissing is involved in the three main types of attraction humans have: sex drive, which is ruled by testosterone; romantic love, which is ruled by dopamine and other feel-good hormones; and attachment, which involves bonding chemicals like oxytocin. Kissing, she postulates, evolved to help on all three fronts. Saliva, swapped during romantic kisses, has testosterone in it; feel-good chemicals are distributed when we kiss that help fuel romance; and kissing also helps unleash chemicals that promote bonding, which provides for long term attachment, necessary for raising offspring.



Yet, not all cultures or mammals kiss. Some mammals have close contact with each others’ faces via licking, grooming, and sniffing, which may transmit the necessary information. And although chimps may pass food from mother to child, the notoriously promiscuous bonobos are apparently the only primates that truly kiss. And while it’s thought that 90 percent of the human population kisses, there’s still the 10 percent that doesn’t. So it seems that as much as we use kissing to gather genetic and compatibility information, our penchant for kissing also has to do with our cultural beliefs surrounding it.


Whether we live in a place where kissing is reserved for close acquaintances, or somewhere where a casual greeting means a one, two, or three cheeker, one thing does remain highly consistent: the side to which people turn while kissing. It’s almost always to the right. A 2003 study published in Nature found that twice as many adults turn their heads to the right rather than the left when kissing. This behavioral asymmetry is thought to stem from the same preference for head turning during the final weeks of gestation and during infancy.